Is your sense of feeling accomplished connected with some future event. You know like I will be happy when I ______? Then fill in the blank yourself; lose 20 pounds, get a new job, earn more money, take a trip, get a new kitchen or find a mate. Many of us feel we need that elusive something before we can begin to live the life we aspire to.
It is time to think beyond yourself. After all, it is not like some miracle will take place, a switch will be turned on and the barriers fall away so suddenly you can achieve your dreams and aspirations, thereby being accomplished.
Have you noticed that the things you thought would arrive in your thirties, then forties, never did? The stars may never align to give you what you think is wanting and in the meantime, life is passing by.
If you want to feel accomplished then you need to relax, enjoy the moment and love the life you have right now. It is the doing, seeing, and feeling that makes you accomplished.
Seven Key Steps To Living An Accomplished Life
Embrace these steps daily and you will start waking up each morning inspired, motivated and excited about what the day holds, whatever may come.
Know what you love
In our busy lives, it is easy to lose sight of what it is we love. Running around meeting other people’s needs, has numbed our sense of self and driven roughshod over our joie de vivre. So spend some time reconnecting with yourself and re-identifying those things that bring you pleasure.
Know who you love
Make a point to spend time each day with those whose company gives you pleasure. Surround yourself with positive people and energy. Pick up the telephone and connect with friends, do coffee with your daughter, yoga class with a neighbor, meet a group at church, set a play time with your grandchildren. Spending time with people you love raises the happiness quotient.
Nurture your wellbeing, both physically and mentally. Take time each day to spend on and with yourself in a positive way. Treat yourself with simple things, drink more water using your prettiest glass, get a 10-minute walk wearing some beautiful runners, make an effort to reapply your favorite pink lipstick all day long, eat healthy most of the time, encourage yourself with self-talks, journal your feelings in a zippy red book. No one is perfect, so accept you are perfectly flawed.
Share the love
Contribute to others positively each day. People who have a purpose and work to make a difference, through volunteering, their family, or spiritual beliefs are happier. It does not need to be an organized event, it can be as simple as participating in the Acts of Random Kindness. At the very least make a point to smile and say hello to absolutely everyone you come in contact with and watch what happens.
Love to Learn
The act of learning keeps us engaged, exposes us to new ideas, gives us a sense of accomplishment and positively contributes to our sense of wellbeing. Try something new each day. Learn a new word, try new food, drive a different route, explore a new park, taste a new coffee, learn a new feature on a device or take a course.
Love what you have
Be grateful. Practice mindfulness each day as awareness contributes to fulfillment and the sense of wellbeing. Set aside five minutes each day to relax, tune into the present and just breathe. Being present stops us from living in the past or worrying about the future. Notice and appreciate the good things around you every day, big or small. Smell the coffee as it brews, listen to the wind whisper or see the beauty of your friend’s face.
Practice the Art of Positivity
By choosing positive emotions we perform better when dealing with life’s stress, failure or loss. Everyone is faced with life challenges. Positivity increases our resilience and contributes to improved physical health. We can be realistic about life’s ups and downs. Make it a practice to focus on the good aspects of every situation. We cannot choose what happens to us but, we can choose how we react. Luckily, being positive is a learned habit.
Practice these philosophies daily and you will feel accomplished now. Don’t wait for something that may never come.