During these trying times, we need to relax, enjoy the moment and fill our lives with things we love… doing, seeing, and feeling. This will not solve those problems you are facing, or change the circumstances you find yourself in however you will reap many benefits that will see you through. Happiness is one of them. Loving your life places you in a happy space today and into the future when this is all over. And it will be over.
This is an opportune time to take stock of the principles you live by and ask yourself what kind of life you want to live on the other side of COVID-19.
In my own life, I have come to realize that by embracing these seven key steps, my happiness quotient increases dramatically. I hope they will inspire you to reflect and add any that might be missing in your life today.
Know what you love
It is easy to lose sight of what it is we love when we are running around dealing with any number of things and meeting other people’s needs. It can numb our sense of self. So embrace this time and spend some time reconnecting with yourself and re-identifying those things that bring you pleasure.
Know who you love
Make a point to spend time each day reaching out to those who give you pleasure. Surround yourself with positive people and energy. Pick up the telephone and connect with friends, do virtual coffee with your daughter, take an online yoga class with a neighbor, set up a virtual group meeting with friends from church, facetime a playdate with your grandchildren. Spending time with people you love raises the happiness quotient.
Nurture your wellbeing, both physically and mentally. No one is perfect, so accept yourself, perceived flaws and all. Take time each day to spend on and with yourself in a positive way. Treat yourself with simple things, drink more water using your prettiest glass, get a 10-minute walk wearing some beautiful runners, make an effort to reapply your favorite pink lipstick all day long, eat healthy most of the time, encourage yourself with self-talks, journal your feelings in a zippy red book or have a long decadent bath. No one is perfect, so revel in being you. Accept you are perfectly flawed.
Share the love
Each day actively take a step to contribute to others positively. People who have a purpose and work to make a difference, either through volunteering, their religious or spiritual beliefs or through their family are happier. It can be as simple as participating in the Acts of Random Kindness, order a food basket to be delivered to a shut-in, arrange to take composting out for your neighbour, send someone a card or handwritten letter by mail or drop it in their mailbox. Watch what happens.
Love to Learn
The act of learning keeps us engaged, exposes us to new ideas, gives us a sense of accomplishment and positively contributes to our sense of wellbeing. Try something new each day; learn a new word, try a new recipe, drive a different route, explore a new park, taste a new coffee, join a book club, learn a new feature on a device or take an online course.
Love what you have
Be grateful. Practice mindfulness each day as awareness contributes to your sense of fulfillment and wellbeing. Set aside five minutes each day to relax, tune into the present and just breathe. Being present stops us from living in the past or worrying about the future. Notice and appreciate the good things around you every day, big or small; smell the coffee as it brews, listen to the wind whisper, feel the material caress your skin, see the beauty around you.
Practice the Art of Positivity
By choosing positive emotions we perform better when dealing with life’s stress, failure or loss. Everyone is faced with life challenges. Positivity increases our resilience, contributes to improved physical health and reaps happiness. We can be realistic about life’s ups and downs, but make it a practice to focus on the good aspects of every situation. Even though we cannot choose what happens to us, we can choose how we react. Luckily, being positive is a learned habit. Practicing these philosophies daily will make a difference now and after this pandemic is over.
Is your life perfect? Certainly not, but you can wake up each morning happy, inspired, motivated and excited about what the day holds, whatever may come. When you love life, it loves you back. I encourage you to give it a try and please, let me know how it works for you. Drop me an email firstname.lastname@example.org.