Wanting To Help Your Adulting Children But Needing To Not

Children At Forty FiveOne of the hardest parts of being a parent is watching your children face adversity and knowing that there comes a time where they must travel the journey alone. It is their life. You support, comfort, and encourage them, but you cannot fix what they are facing, even though you want to so badly. It is at this point, that the apron string that you have nurtured and used to keep them close breaks.

This has been a reality for every generation of parents. The price of independence is a bittersweet one of pride and sadness. The most rewarding aspect of parenting, however, is witnessing the strength, courage, determination, and adaptability of children as they navigate successfully through their personal challenges.

Life Is Full Of Lessons

They muster the bravery to face another day even though it may bring disappointments. Even though their friends hurt them they find loyalty a lesson deep within their being. They decide to just go for their dream even though there is no guarantee of success, and they smile and laugh because they know that the good in this world far outweighs the bad. We commend and celebrate eir resiliency and drive to persist and figure out life.

There are many lessons our children cannot learn in a classroom. They only learn them by going through life experiences and all that it entails. I watch our kids, and those I have had the privilege of knowing, chase goals I was never daring enough to dream. They are inspiring, awesome, and powerful.

Today’s children have a burden to bear that we did not have growing up. They are under the microscope of the Internet. The loss of privacy through technology creates a generation that documents every success, failure, accomplishment, and mistake. Lessons are harder to recover from and tough to shoulder. Their world is full of critic – keyboard warriors hiding behind the anonymity of the computer. The sarcastic nastiness is spewed without any regard for compassion or understanding.

So we offer a toast to our youth who are our future, you are fascinating and intelligent and brave. You inspire me to try a little harder every day. And to our two children who make us proud unconditionally, it is a privilege to call you ours – you are our life and our love.

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Home is my happy place. Hugs, naps and baths are my therapy! My greatest blessings are a quiet man who loves me unconditionally and the beautiful souls who call me Mom.

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