At a time in life when we should be celebrating our accomplishments, we find ourselves focusing on that which we no longer possess. Why psychologically do we long for what we do not have and when will we be happy where we currently are?
I love the opportunity to visit the city and partake of the things that are taken for granted by city dwellers. The endless selection of entertainment turns me into a child again deciding what penny candies to choose for my nickel, filling my brown paper bag.
I recall my introduction to Neil Pasricha. Famous for his speeches on TED talks, and The Book of Awesome, I had purchased the book for my son but ended up reading it. I had a chance to see him at the wonderful Winspear Centre in Edmonton. Literally, every seat delights the spectator.
Pasricha starts, talking about his parents’ arrival in Canada. The challenges life tossed to him, similar to many. He discusses his divorce early in life. The loss of a close friend to depression, and the elusive pursuit of happiness.
An old adage, hard work leads to success; which is the path to happiness. Pasricha talks about how even after his success, his happiness was not at the forefront of his life. The word was a reverberating sound across the auditorium…. happiness, happiness, happiness. We spend our lives in search of this sense of contentment. The question is, why is it so obscure?
Wikipedia defines happiness as a mental or emotional state of well-being, defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may also reflect judgements by a person about their overall well-being. I question is it in this “judgement” of one’s self that we sabotage our happiness?
Pasricha provides a simple, but effective list of options for changing one’s judgement/perspective and challenges the audience to adopt one weekly. They don’t take long or a lot of effort for the return.
- Three brisk walks for 20 minutes in nature.
- Write for 20 minutes replaying a positive experience.
- Carry out 5 random acts of kindness.
- Write down 3 – 5 things you are grateful for from the previous week.
Set aside your judgement and ego and reach for your happiness. We owe me. Now is the time to pay on your debt to yourself. Join me At Forty Five and claim your happiness. #WeOweMENow Tell us how you claim your happiness.